Your Moving On The Split Up Is Finshed

By Thomas Bailey Aldrich

Sometimes moving on (break up, loss or other major change) is tricky. It's rarely easy unless you're so glad to get out of a situation that you cannot wait to make changes and go on. A break up disrupts your whole life. Everything you do and see seems to make you think about your ex. If you had many mutual chums, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult.

One of the most important hurdles you have to face when you're ready to move on is your buddies and relatives. If your ex was popular with your folks, you are going to get bored of questions about the situation. You have to explain to them that you are moving on, break up is over, and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes this is difficult for family to cope with. They wish to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you will get back together. You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is over, that's that." Finally they will come around because they are your folks and they love you. It's possibly going to be tougher to deal with when it comes to your friends.

If you did not have many common buddies, then it should be less of a difficulty. But if the 2 of you frequently hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to appear peculiar to everybody for a while. And then there's the problem of your ex needing to hang with the chums, too. You might even run into each attempt to hang out with your common friends. This does not imply that it's obligatory when you're moving on break up with your friends. It's just simply going to be tougher to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.

As troublesome as it seems, when you assert, "Moving on, break up is history," you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to stay in contact with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just try and maintain good contact and relationships with those you are nearest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this could be distressing, it's potentially easiest on everybody because they do not have to select which of you to be faithful to and which to avoid.

Sometimes the "moving on break up" period is just too difficult when you are besieged by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If at all possible, go on a holiday to run away from the same view and folks. Take a holiday with a friend who isn't concerned in the situation ; perhaps a mate of yours who wasn't friends with your ex. This could help you get some perspective. Once you've announced, "moving on ; break up over" then if you can take a while away it will help you a great deal. - 30224

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